As the boys start to get a little older I'm starting to realize this Parents of Twins thing will be challenging. I am honestly not too caught up on milestones. I want the boys to thrive, don't get me wrong. But I am also not up in arms if they aren't sitting up or crawling at a certain number of months.
It has proven to be good that I'm not overly stressed about these things since they are preemies but honestly they've been developing well, so it's not been hard to be low key about things. But, I'm sure this will get more difficult.
What has been difficult is separating them as individuals for other people. People ask if "they" are crawling or if "they" are teething and want a yes or no answer. Not, "Well, Crews is starting to crawl but Tate isn't as interested." Or, "Tate is getting another tooth and I haven't seen a new one for Crews lately." That's too much detail. They want yes or no.
And, honestly, I've found it most challenging to make sure people see that I love the boys equally. That sounds weird. But it's true. People see twins as very "tit for tat". If I say something about Crews, I have to say something about Tate. And visa versa. If I post a picture of Crews, I have to post a picture of Tate. Yesterday's blog post was pictures of Tate. Only Tate. So today...pictures of Crews.
But I want them to realize that they are two individual people. I want to raise them as individuals. I want them to look back and see pictures of just them. By themselves or with me or their daddy. Without their brother. And not in the exact same setting just a different baby.
I know children have to be parented differently. Based on their personalities and their needs. I pray that God gives me the strength to be the mom I need to be to both of them. To meet their individual needs and to love them as individuals.